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Pia Toscano Says 'This Time' Isn't 'Just A Breakup Song'

You can't blame Pia Toscano for being angry. The "American Idol" season 10 finalist was shockingly bumped from the competition in ninth place, though many viewers and experts suspected it was not the last time they would see — or hear from — the raven-haired singer.

After Toscano scored a major-label deal with Interscope Records — making her the first ninth-place eliminee in "Idol" history to pull off such a feat — the 22-year-old New Yorker made it clear on her first single, "This Time," that she's determined to do things her way.

"The song could pertain to 'American Idol' and my journey on the show," Toscano told MTV News about the double meaning some fans and critics have found in the empowerment anthem's lyrics about shaking off a guy (or a voting bloc) who did her wrong. "It's a journey of self-discovery and empowerment, and it's not just a breakup song."

The tune, with a heavy R&B beat and a twinge of twang that might not be out of place in a Carrie Underwood foot-stomper, was written by Ester Dean, who has made similarly smart anthems for Rihanna ("S&M," "Rude Boy") and Nicki Minaj ("Superbass").

Though she said no specific breakup in her past inspired the tune, Toscano — who is reportedly dating "Dancing With the Stars" pro Mark Ballas — said she felt like it suited her well and might just reflect on some things that have happened to her in the past. "I can 100 percent relate to it whether it's about a relationship or my journey on 'Idol,' " Toscano said as she navigated her way through an airport on her way to an Idols Live! Tour date in Oklahoma City.

What's ironic about the song is that Underwood-esque country twang mixed with an R&B backbeat, which gives it a sound like the kind of contemporary pop/country tunes you might expect from "Idol" runner-up Lauren Alaina. In it, she sings that she's "mad as hell, ain't gonna take it no more" and that she's "gonna free herself."

"This time, I'm gonna do it my way/ This time, I'm finding out the hard way," Toscano sings on the chorus.

The former makeup artist said that's just a preview of the range of sounds you can expect to hear on her yet-untitled debut, due in the fall. "It's not just one thing, not pop or R&B," she said, promising that "This Time" is an anomaly and she won't be encroaching on Alaina's or winner Scotty McCreery's country airspace.

"It will be pop with an R&B influence, with an edge," she said of the album. "It will be soulful and powerful.

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In the previous article concerning the ‘romantic break-up’ we discussed why the break-up occurs in the second stage of romantic love, which is the Personal Attraction stage.

The first stage of love is Lust, followed by the Personal Attraction Phase and if the love is to ultimately last the final stage of love is Attachment. Our behavior in love and at the various stages of love is determined to a significant degree by the particular hormonal biochemical complex that dominates that stage of love.

In lust these biochemicals are mainly Dopamine’s and then Serotonin and transitory Adrenal episodes. But all of these work together to affect our behavior in the Lust Phase and so it is at this stage that our decision-making is the most severely compromised. For example, our discrimination or selectivity as to who is a suitable or ‘appropriate lover’ is at its lowest level during this short but intense Lust Phase.

But by the Attraction Phase of love the Dopamines are gone and the Serotonin levels start to drop to near normal levels, but very importantly, they drop off in one lover before they do in the other. That fact is the underlying reality for most all ‘heartbreak’ resulting from a failed relationship. It is at this biochemical point that the break-up begins in the Personal Attraction Phase of Love.

This is because the lover whose Serotonin levels have returned to normal now sees the other lover more authentically than they previously did, or even could, while still under the influence of the high levels of the ‘feel good’ drug Serotonin.

They may even begin to then contrast what they now see in the their lover with their ideal ‘dream lover’. Especially if they are not matured in their romantic life experiences. If they do make this contrast then of course their lover will always fail to meet their ‘fantasy standard’.

How correct people are when they tell the lover that they are breaking up with, ” John, The chemistry just isn’t there anymore”

Hence, the partner with the returned normal Serotonin levels may begin to behave in a manner designed to effect the termination of the relationship. This behavior can sometimes occurs at less than the fully self-aware level.

In contrast though, the other lover is still very much under love’s biochemical spell. They thus feel ‘bewildered’ as to how the person with whom they shared so much tenderness and love and deep feelings of intimacy with has now somehow suddenly changed into a cold and adversarial person.

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